47 and Finally Free: The Year I Stopped Living for Everyone Else

47 and Finally Free: The Year I Stopped Living for Everyone Else

Dear Defiant Disruptor, I wondered if it made sense to make a post this late. The month’s nearly over, the schedule’s full, and I thought, maybe it’s too late. But then I remembered: healing isn’t about perfect timing. It’s about showing up when you can, with what you...
47 & Still Standing: The Year I Chose to Start Fully

47 & Still Standing: The Year I Chose to Start Fully

Let me be clear, I shouldn’t be here. But I am. Not after the abuse, the shame, the silence that almost swallowed me whole. Not after the sickness, heartbreak, loss, and pain that tried to bury me alive. But God. He didn’t just save me once. He saved me again… and...
Working With Your Nervous System, Not Against It – Part 2 of 2

Working With Your Nervous System, Not Against It – Part 2 of 2

This is Part 2 of ‘Rebuilding Trust in Your Physical Responses.’ If you missed Part 1, I encourage you to read it first, it sets the stage for what we’re unpacking today. Dear Survivor, Last week we named panic and hypervigilance for what they truly are: protection...
Listening to Your Inner Signals: Relearning to Trust Your Body

Listening to Your Inner Signals: Relearning to Trust Your Body

Dear Survivor, Silence taught us to hold back. Now self-trust asks us to listen, to tap in, and to be present. This can feel tedious, even terrifying. For many of us, one of the worst parts of being abused as children wasn’t just what happened, it was what it taught...
From Silence to Self-Trust: A New Chapter in the Journey

From Silence to Self-Trust: A New Chapter in the Journey

Dear Survivor, We’ve spent the last few weeks talking about silence, how it protects, imprisons, and sometimes erupts into anger when it finally breaks. But here’s the truth I had to face after the silence: Even when I spoke, I didn’t trust myself. I second-guessed my...