When you decide to speak up about child sexual abuse, you will experience various reactions from various people. Survivors would like to believe ‘family’ will be the most supportive, but often times we experience the opposite. My experience was no different. Oprah once said “sometimes you have to divorce your family” I’m not sure who […]
The healing process or The process of healing is as unique to each individual as their finger prints. We all experience and process things differently, therefore we heal differently. Do Not try to stop, block or hinder one’s process. The best you can do is be supportive and patient.
For years I was asked not to speak about being raped by my maternal grandmothers husband for the sake of protecting my grandmother. Her daughters had grown up with this fear that her husband would have killed her had THEY spoken out about him raping THEM. So, when grandma’s husband turned his gaze upon me […]
“A life lived in constant pain, suppressing hurts and misinterpreted shame is no life lived at all!” (LHR) I hurt for you! I cry for you! My heart breaks and bleeds for you! I wonder, how many people have died taking with them secrets that drove them to an early grave? Secrets that […]
Sexually abused children who aren’t believed or don’t receive help are more likely to have long-term problems with: *Trusting themselves and others *Self-confidence (due to unresolved guilt/shame) *Mild to serious mental health problems *Romantic/sexual relationships as an adolescent and adult *Increased vulnerability to future social trauma… Yet so many are still of the belief that […]
Dearest Grandma, Awaken from your Slumber! (Prelude) Let it begin… Too many hurting! On this journey…
A Grandmother’s Betrayal… CHOOSE YOU!!! Some days were unbearable (emotionally). Sitting across from the matriarch of the family, knowing she’s present at court not because of her daughters and granddaughters, but instead in support of her husband that sexually abused her daughters and granddaughters… Some days were tough! Court: Day 7 This day was rather […]