47 and Finally Free: The Year I Stopped Living for Everyone Else

47 and Finally Free: The Year I Stopped Living for Everyone Else

Dear Defiant Disruptor, I wondered if it made sense to make a post this late. The month’s nearly over, the schedule’s full, and I thought, maybe it’s too late. But then I remembered: healing isn’t about perfect timing. It’s about showing up when you can, with what you...
Working With Your Nervous System, Not Against It – Part 2 of 2

Working With Your Nervous System, Not Against It – Part 2 of 2

This is Part 2 of ‘Rebuilding Trust in Your Physical Responses.’ If you missed Part 1, I encourage you to read it first, it sets the stage for what we’re unpacking today. Dear Survivor, Last week we named panic and hypervigilance for what they truly are: protection...
MASKED – Episode 3

MASKED – Episode 3

MOLESTED BY FOUR SEPARATE ABUSERS BETWEEN AGES 7-9. RAPED AT 14 YEARS OLD BY A STALKER.  **TRIGGER WARNING** Discussions of Child Sexual Abuse. Episodes may contain graphic details. Sex was my healing. Molested and Raped by five separate guys on separate occasions....
On My Way To Recovery – (Guest Post)

On My Way To Recovery – (Guest Post)

This piece was written by our last guest on MASKED (A J2F Mini-Series). I asked her permission to share. It continues to be my prayer that if one person’s life is positively affected, influenced, or changed by my story, then my speaking would not be in vain....
A 80TH Birthday Celebration

A 80TH Birthday Celebration

Each time I thought about attending the party, I felt like I was on the verge of a panic attack. An internal tug of war was taking place. I was doing it again. Once again, I allowed myself to be conflicted at the expectation and request of a loved one. I still...
To Go or Not To Go?

To Go or Not To Go?

The plans were underway, no-one bothered to include me or even ask, was it that they knew I wouldn’t be interested in attending, or was it something more sinister? Could it be they didn’t want me there for fear of contention? December 20th, 2016 –...